The lover archetype in mythology, literature, and cultural imagination represents passion, romance, and relational connection.
Sergio Rijo in The Archetype Code defines it as such:
“The lover archetype represents passion, intimacy, and emotional connection. Lovers form deep bonds and cherish relationships.”
This archetype is evident in a range of film and literature texts and embodies a range of forms, from romantic to universal love (embodied by the “lover not a fighter”).
Lover Archetypes Examples
1. Romeo Montague (Romeo and Juliet)
Romeo, from Shakespeare’s tragic love story, is one of the most iconic examples of the Lover archetype in literature. He’s passionate, impulsive, and deeply in love with Juliet.
Their love story, filled with intense emotion, longing, and ultimate sacrifice, captures the essence of young, fervent love.
From the moment Romeo lays eyes on Juliet, he is completely captivated. His poetic language throughout the play speaks to the depths of his emotions. For instance:
“But, soft! What light through yonder window breaks? It is the east, and Juliet is the sun.”
The entirety of their whirlwind relationship, from their secret meetings to their tragic ends, is driven by Romeo’s passion and intense love, making him a quintessential representation of the Lover archetype.
2. Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy (Pride and Prejudice)
Elizabeth Bennet: Elizabeth is spirited, intelligent, and not afraid to speak her mind. She is a prime example of the Lover archetype because she’s not just looking for any match; she’s searching for true love and emotional connection. Her wit and prejudices initially blind her to Mr. Darcy’s affections, but she comes to recognize and return his deep love for her.
“There are few people whom I really love, and still fewer of whom I think well.”
Mr. Darcy: A proud and wealthy gentleman, Darcy embodies the Lover archetype as he undergoes significant personal growth for his love for Elizabeth. Though he initially struggles with his feelings and comes off as proud and aloof, his deep love for Elizabeth leads him to self-awareness and change.
“In vain I have struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.”
3. Jack Dawson and Rose DeWitt Bukater (Titanic)
Jack Dawson: A free-spirited artist, Jack represents the Lover archetype in his passion for life and love. Meeting Rose on the Titanic, he introduces her to a world of freedom and possibility. His love for her is both deep and sacrificial.
“You jump, I jump, remember?”
Rose DeWitt Bukater: Coming from a world of privilege but feeling trapped in her life, Rose’s encounter with Jack awakens her passion and zest for life. She embodies the Lover archetype in her yearning for true love and a life lived on her own terms. After the tragic events of the Titanic, her love for Jack forever influences her decisions and outlook on life.
“I’ll never let go, Jack. I promise.”
Both of these pairs, whether in literature or film, exemplify the Lover archetype in their pursuit of authentic connection, passion, and personal transformation.
4. Westley and Buttercup (The Princess Bride)
Westley: A farm boy turned pirate, Westley is the epitome of the Lover archetype. His love for Buttercup is unwavering, and he endures countless challenges and obstacles to be with her. His classic line, “As you wish,” is his coded way of saying “I love you” to Buttercup throughout their adventures.
“Do I love you? My God, if your love were a grain of sand, mine would be a universe of beaches.”
Buttercup: The beautiful and strong-willed princess, Buttercup initially misunderstands Westley’s feelings but soon realizes her deep love for him. Despite being pursued by other suitors, her heart remains true to Westley. She exemplifies the Lover archetype in her dedication and faith in their love.
“I will never doubt again.”
5. Noah Calhoun and Allie Hamilton (The Notebook)
Noah Calhoun: A passionate and persistent young man, Noah embodies the Lover archetype in his enduring love for Allie. Their summer love faces the challenges of class differences and societal expectations, but Noah never gives up on them. He writes to her every day for a year, showcasing his dedication and deep affection.
“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you.”
Allie Hamilton: A young woman caught between duty and desire, Allie exemplifies the Lover archetype in her internal struggle. Torn between familial expectations and her heart’s true calling, her love story with Noah is one of rediscovery, passion, and enduring commitment.
“I think our love can do anything we want it to.”
Both couples’ tales, filled with obstacles, separation, and reconnection, embody the trials and triumphs associated with the Lover archetype. They demonstrate the power of love to overcome adversity and stand the test of time.
1. Analytical Psychology (Carl Jung)
In the context of Jungian analytical psychology, archetypes are innate, universal prototypes for ideas and concepts that humans subconsciously understand from birth (Jung, 1957; Neumann, 1954).
They shape human experiences and can be observed through various manifestations in culture, literature, and personal behaviors.
Jung believed that we all share a bank of “psychic structures” (Hauke, 2012) deep in our unconsciousness. Everyone has the same bank of psychic structures, or Jungian archetypes, almost as if we were all pre-programmed with the same software from birth (Jung, 1957; Neumann, 1954).
Because we supposedly all share this same unconscious understanding, Jung calls it the collective unconsciousness.
2. Cultural Discourse (Social Constructs)
In the context of sociology, it is believed that we aren’t innately born with an understanding of primordial archetypes. Rather, we are socialized into understanding concepts that we hold in our collective imagination. Sociologists call these cultural constructs (Taylor, 2014; Foucault, 2013; Fourie, 2007).
We learn about these constructs through interaction with our parents, family, and friends. We see them in the media, and internalize these understandings from seeing them repeated, over and again, through our formative years (Griffiths, Strayer & Cody-Rydzewski, 2017).
The thing I like about this perspective is that it understands that, as societies change, so too do our cultural constructs (Taylor, 2014; Foucault, 2013). The lover archetype can shift and change as new storytellers create new narratives about what it means and feels like to experience love.
In particular, postmodern writers often intentionally subvert cultural discourses of archetypes, creating new ways of thinking about concepts like the hero, villain, and indeed, the lover (McHale, 2012).
For example one postmodern example of the lover archetype is the film “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.” In this love story, we see a challenge to conventional ideas of commitment. The premise revolves around characters who choose to erase memories of each other after their relationship ends. This plays with the idea of forgetting as a means of coping with pain, a far cry from the traditional ’till death do us part’ approach to commitment.
When creating your own works that contain a lover archetype, you can work with existing tropes about the lover as passionate, intense, and emotional. But you may also choose to follow a postmodern route, playing with new ways of subverting what the reader or viewer expects of the storyline, to construct new ways of thinking about an old trope.
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